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Why can’t I get pregnant?

For three years, I asked myself that same question.  What was wrong with ME?!  Why couldn’t I get pregnant like everyone else?  What was I doing wrong?  What can I do about it?  All I wanted was to have a baby.  So like you, I started researching how to get pregnant.  After about a year of researching options, visiting multiple doctors, and various invasive tests, I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. 


My husband and I tried natural enhancers to conceive, intra-uterine insemination (IUI), and finally one round of in-vitro fertilization (IVF).   Much to our delight, we got pregnant with twins after this round. My twins are now 7 years old and we cannot be more happy. Yet, I know that for you, as someone who is trying to get pregnant, that your little miracle is waiting to happen.


So as a psychotherapist who lives with infertility, I want to tell you this – infertility is not your fault!  There was nothing ever wrong with ME.  I have a medical condition that prevents from me conceiving naturally.  After giving birth to my twins, my doctors discovered that I have endometriosis – which was causing my infertility. Nothing more.  I was not doing something wrong all that time many years ago that stopped me from getting pregnant.  And no stress does not cause infertility!


Not getting pregnant is stressful, and not understanding why is unbearable. I get it.  I’ve been there, and I am here to help you make sense of it all.  I wish I had someone to talk to about how ashamed I felt, how helpless and defeated I felt, how sad and angry I was, and how isolating the whole experience was.  This is why I dedicate my time to supporting people like you, who are desperately seeking to start a family and just can’t.  Charlandra is here for you.  Charlandra is hope! 

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